Sex Education FAIL

Just when you start wondering why we have so many unwanted teenage pregnancies in this country, some of the reasons just happen to get thrust in your face. I recently overheard two mothers sharing their experiences regarding their preteen daughters and the topic of sex. The first lady lead with, "My daughter thinks that passionate kissing qualifies as sex." (Note that the lady flawlessly completed her delivery of this nonsense with an amused smile plastered across her face.) She inexplicably followed with, "I'd like to keep it that way."

At this point, I was fascinated by the trainwreck of parenting skills I was witnessing, so I maintained my distance to remain in earshot. The other mother responded with a story of her own. Apparently her eleven-year-old daughter came home recently and asked her mother what a virgin was -- to which her mother responded, "I don't know." Dumbfounded (and probably a wee-bit patronized) the daughter asked her mother again. The mom replied with the same feigned ignorance.

What was more unbelievable was how she laughed it off -- like the whole ordeal was funny. "OMG, how are you supposed to respond to that question? Tee hee hee!" You respond by answering the damn question, that's how! The tragedy here is that the daughter is still demonstrating trust and faith in her mother. She is coming to her mother to help her define her adult world. What the daughter will learn shortly is that her mother is incapable of filling the role she wants her mother to fill, and she will instead seek the knowledge from alternate sources. The mother lying to her daughter does nothing but violate the trust that exists between mother and daughter, fostering the uncomfortable sexual gap that fragments so many children from their parents.

Sure it might be hard to have the birds-and-the-bees conversation with your child, but isn't that short period of discomfort worth the control you would command over your child's definition of sex? Talk to your kid and you control the content and context of what is discussed. Avoid the discussion and let all your child's friends on the playground define it for them. Either that or just risk your child's innocence being manipulated and gullibility exploited by another teen partner with raging hormones.

Because 80% of the time the pullout method works EVERY TIME!!!

(I really wish parents wouldn't act like they were twelve when the topic of sex materializes... but let's face it, America's parents often regress to a preteen state when sex is the subject. My dad gave me the sex talk when I was in second grade because I was coming home from school and filling my brother's head with absurd inaccuracies of how babies were made. My dad set the record straight for us. Good job, pops.)